Last night I went to a BBQ with a bunch of friends. You know, just to enjoy some free food (yes!) and have a little fun after a long day. I had a friend call me right as we all got there about something she needed help with though, so I chatted with her right outside the door before heading in. I saw this guy come walking up to the door who I have known for a while. Although I use the word "known" pretty loosely. This guy, Jeremy, is one of those guys who is just awkward to be around. And because I felt bad about that, I tried to befriend him and include him so that he wouldn't feel like a loner. In high school, I was "that girl" who just didn't have a whole lot of friends, so I've always tried to be inclusive. The people who included me when I was in that same situation really changed my life, and I want to pass that on. This time, I guess it kind of backfired. Apparently there is such a thing as being "too nice". :) Jeremy got the wrong idea and thought that I was trying to let him know that I was interested in him. He began to try to touch me whenever he got the chance. It wasn't inappropriate at first, just a side-hug or something like that. Then it was patting me on the head (What am I, a cat? Rawr!), rubbing my shoulders if I were sitting down, etc. I'd always move away and shake my head "no" or just try to let him know I really didn't want him doing that. But he had a real problem with taking the hint.
A couple of weeks ago, however, I thought I might have gotten the point across. He called me "hot" which is something I really dislike. But that is a topic for another day. :) So I told him that I really don't like being called that, how I don't consider that a compliment, that I didn't want him to call me that, etc. Basically telling him that I'm not interested. And ever since then he left me alone. I thought my problems with him were all solved. But after tonight I guess I was wrong.
Back to my story... I was just outside talking on the phone when he walked up. I made eye contact and kind of smiled, just to acknowledge him, and then turned slightly away and went on talking to my friend. Instead of just walking on towards the home where the BBQ was, like I thought he would, he came over to give me a big hug. Like... a BIG hug. Both arms wrapped tightly around me like a boa constrictor. And he wouldn't let go! I struggled to get out of his grip, but he just laughed and held me tighter. I had to use both hands to physically push him off of me. Not just a little nudge, but a full on shove. I said "no" to him very firmly, and was about to say a whole lot more, but he walked away before I could say anything else. Then while we were passing each other he put his hand on my back and rubbed it in a very uncomforable way... like with the tips of his fingers prodding my spine. Ugh, this sounds even worse in writing... So I once again said, "NO". But I don't think he got the idea.
I think that the only way I will be able to really get rid of him is to just spell it out. "Jeremy, you creepy little...!!!" Haha just kidding... maybe something a little nicer. But is being nice what got me into this in the first place?
I am probably going to see him again tonight. And I am hoping to be able to clear it up when and if I do, so do any of you have any suggestions for what to say and how to say it? I want to get rid of this guy... but I would really rather not crush him. But is that something I can't avoid anymore?
My goodness, was life a lot easier when we all had "cooties".
♥-Kaylee
September 11, 2009
September 8, 2009
Okay. First of all, I second what Kaylee said. She is pretty much AMAZING, love you girl!
Second, let me kind of introduce myself. I am Brittany... and I'm actually the only one of these girls who is (kind of) in a relationship-ish. (Not that I am like all proud of that or whatever... haha) If you are a girl, that will TOTALLY make sense. For the guys, let me explain.
So I am a dental hygenist. I graduated from UVU this spring... yay me! And a few months ago, this guy (Andrew) came in needing a checkup done of whatever. We got to chatting, and it turns out he was working on his mission papers. I was a tad bit disappointed... thought he was a little older than almost 19. But hey, age is just a number, right? And speaking of numbers... he asked for mine, so I gave it to him, duh.
So he called me... and we met up at the Creamery the next week. And we just hit it off right away... we hung out a lot, went on several dates, got to the holding hands/I love you stage, but no kisses... some promise he made to wait until engagement.
THEN... he left on a mission to Wisconsin. Before we even had time for a real good DTR or anything. But Elder McCain and I still write basically every week. But even though we kinda flirt(ish) sometimes, we aren't technically a couple... so yeah. It is complicated. But I totally do NOT feel single, at all. But I guess I am still "dating" and "single", although I care about him a lot.
What do you all think though, is it weird for a 23 y/o to date a 19 y/o? Too much of an age gap? and when he gets back I will be 25.... yikes. In Mormon culture I would be in the advanced stages of "Old Maid-ism" hahaha jk. ;)
Thoughts?
Second, let me kind of introduce myself. I am Brittany... and I'm actually the only one of these girls who is (kind of) in a relationship-ish. (Not that I am like all proud of that or whatever... haha) If you are a girl, that will TOTALLY make sense. For the guys, let me explain.
So I am a dental hygenist. I graduated from UVU this spring... yay me! And a few months ago, this guy (Andrew) came in needing a checkup done of whatever. We got to chatting, and it turns out he was working on his mission papers. I was a tad bit disappointed... thought he was a little older than almost 19. But hey, age is just a number, right? And speaking of numbers... he asked for mine, so I gave it to him, duh.
So he called me... and we met up at the Creamery the next week. And we just hit it off right away... we hung out a lot, went on several dates, got to the holding hands/I love you stage, but no kisses... some promise he made to wait until engagement.
THEN... he left on a mission to Wisconsin. Before we even had time for a real good DTR or anything. But Elder McCain and I still write basically every week. But even though we kinda flirt(ish) sometimes, we aren't technically a couple... so yeah. It is complicated. But I totally do NOT feel single, at all. But I guess I am still "dating" and "single", although I care about him a lot.
What do you all think though, is it weird for a 23 y/o to date a 19 y/o? Too much of an age gap? and when he gets back I will be 25.... yikes. In Mormon culture I would be in the advanced stages of "Old Maid-ism" hahaha jk. ;)
Thoughts?
September 6, 2009
Hola!
So I (Kaylee) get to have the first shot at this thing apparently... I'm so excited for this whole blog thing, but I honestly don't know where to start when it comes to what I wish the guys knew or would do or the things that really turn me off. I guess I'll start with the one thing that I (and really, most LDS girls) look for in a guy. And that is a testimony.
Yeah, yeah... it sounds corny to a lot of people. And I probably look like a little Molly Mormon right now. But you know what? I am okay with that because I'd much rather be known as a goody two-shoes than a skanky twit.
Let me explain why a testimony is so important to me and the majority of the female LDS population in general. When a guy has a really strong testimony, as in he really believes in the things we are taught AND applies them to his daily life, everything he does is affected by that. What he says, how he dresses, the interests and pursuits and desires he has. Especially as relates to women.
I am well aware that men tend to be pretty physical and visual. And I really don't consider that to be a bad thing, as long as it is controlled and/or appropriate. But the determining factor (in most cases) seems to be whether the guy has a strong testimony or not. I have known and dated quite a few guys. More than I like to admit, honestly. And the guys that did not have a real interest in the church or in gaining/maintaining a testimony were the ones that treated me the worst.
One of them, named Jared, was especially bad. Sure he was an RM, sure he went to church and did his home teaching every month and was working on his food storage and that that jazz... but his heart wasn't into it. He was a charmer, very charismatic, but he didn't see me as much more than a girl with a nice body. I play on my college's volleyball team so I'm in pretty good shape.
On the other hand, another guy I dated named Bryan was completely opposite. We rarely even kissed or anything. We would go over to each others apartments and just talk. We would talk for hours and hours about everything under the sun. We'd discuss our hopes and dreams, worries and stresses, school and work, etc. We'd talk about the gospel and the scriptures, and that was always the best. He was squeaky clean, but not boring at all. He knew how to have fun, but he also know that the only real "fun" would be things that would keep him close to the Lord. We only broke up because he moved to the East Coast for college, and it was right for me to keep my scholarship to BYU and stay here in Provo. We are still good friends though, we just didn't want to do the whole long distance ordeal. Who knows, maybe he'll come back to Provo and things will work out?
But I'm rambling now... haha. So yep, that is part of the reason why a testimony is so important to me, although there are a lot more things I could (and in the future I probably will) say about this subject. Stay tuned... I'm sure my girls have a lot of things to say, and I'm excited to hear their opinions too!
♥-Kaylee
Yeah, yeah... it sounds corny to a lot of people. And I probably look like a little Molly Mormon right now. But you know what? I am okay with that because I'd much rather be known as a goody two-shoes than a skanky twit.
Let me explain why a testimony is so important to me and the majority of the female LDS population in general. When a guy has a really strong testimony, as in he really believes in the things we are taught AND applies them to his daily life, everything he does is affected by that. What he says, how he dresses, the interests and pursuits and desires he has. Especially as relates to women.
I am well aware that men tend to be pretty physical and visual. And I really don't consider that to be a bad thing, as long as it is controlled and/or appropriate. But the determining factor (in most cases) seems to be whether the guy has a strong testimony or not. I have known and dated quite a few guys. More than I like to admit, honestly. And the guys that did not have a real interest in the church or in gaining/maintaining a testimony were the ones that treated me the worst.
One of them, named Jared, was especially bad. Sure he was an RM, sure he went to church and did his home teaching every month and was working on his food storage and that that jazz... but his heart wasn't into it. He was a charmer, very charismatic, but he didn't see me as much more than a girl with a nice body. I play on my college's volleyball team so I'm in pretty good shape.
On the other hand, another guy I dated named Bryan was completely opposite. We rarely even kissed or anything. We would go over to each others apartments and just talk. We would talk for hours and hours about everything under the sun. We'd discuss our hopes and dreams, worries and stresses, school and work, etc. We'd talk about the gospel and the scriptures, and that was always the best. He was squeaky clean, but not boring at all. He knew how to have fun, but he also know that the only real "fun" would be things that would keep him close to the Lord. We only broke up because he moved to the East Coast for college, and it was right for me to keep my scholarship to BYU and stay here in Provo. We are still good friends though, we just didn't want to do the whole long distance ordeal. Who knows, maybe he'll come back to Provo and things will work out?
But I'm rambling now... haha. So yep, that is part of the reason why a testimony is so important to me, although there are a lot more things I could (and in the future I probably will) say about this subject. Stay tuned... I'm sure my girls have a lot of things to say, and I'm excited to hear their opinions too!
♥-Kaylee
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This is Brittany, Kaylee, Andrea, and Jaclyn! We are 4 single Mormon girls who decided to create this blog to let the men out there know what the girls REALLY think of them, what we like/dislike, what we're looking for, and what makes us want to run away screaming. We hope you enjoy reading this, and that you'll appreciate the honesty. Because let's face it... we are what we are and we aren't going to change that, so just love us like we are and we'll love you too!
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