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We thought we'd give this a whirl. Some of you may have noticed that we had a badge on the right to become our facebook "friends". But instead of doing that, since we doubt that most of you would want to let four anonymous girls see your profiles, we've created a fan page instead. So join, if you would like to. :) We sure won't be miffed if you don't. But if you do... feel free! HERE is the link.

We hope you are all having an awesome week! Who here is ready for finals to be over? We sure are!!!

Divorce and dating... dun dun dun!

An anonymous person left a comment several days ago asking our opinion on this subject. He has since deleted it, so even though I have access to the comment still because deleteing the comment doesn't delete the email notification, I will just talk about it in general and not share specific stuff from his comment.

Basically, the jist of his comment was wanting to know what chances he has in the dating world as a divorced man. My thoughts? I think it depends a lot more on who you are now than anything that has happened in the past. For me, personally, I would be totally fine with dating a divorced person. And heck, if he fits the "criteria" of things I want in a future husband, then I don't see why I would have any problem with getting married to him, even if he had kids. the most important thing to me in a realtionship/husband is not whether he has been divorced or has kids or anything like that, but whether he is a good, solid member of the church, if I feel confident that he is going to work just as hard as me to keep our relationship/marriage strong, if he is or will be a good father, and the rest of the quite long list of things I look for in a relationship/husband. Maybe I'll have to post at least some of that list sometime. :)

So to you, anonymous commentor, I say go for it and good luck! I'm sure there is someone out there for you andm I hope you find her soon!

Let me open this up to anyone else who still reads this blog. What do you think about divorce and dating?

This is an interesting topic... thanks for bringing it up!

I seem to have really bad luck with the guys that are attracted to me. Really bad. I get the stalkers, the creeps, the awkward, the bizarre, and the just plain annoying guys. Wnat some examples?

Exhibit A: We met at a church function in our teens. He was from another state. We kept in contact through texting and emailing for several months, just as friends. He was pretty awkward and strange, but when we were texting and emailing it was easy to forget that. We were just good friends... nothing more, nothing less. I did, however, suspect that he might be crushing on me a bit, and I'll admit... I did go through a phase when I fooled myself into liking him. A year later, we met again, and went on a date. By this point, I was interested in someone else but quite aware that he liked me. It is easily in my top 5 worst dates of all time. The awkwardness that pervaded our date was nearly tangible, especially when he bashfully told me he "had a crush" on me (can you say "high school"??) and I gave a very nice, kind, and sensitive "I like you as a friend" speech. Then he blew up. I had never seen that side of him. He was so upset and said things I'm sure he regrets. but the weirdest part? When he got home, he emailed me, basically soliciting my advice in how to get over me and fix his wounded ego. Weird? I certainly think so!

Exhibit B: A friend from another ward that I met my freshman year. He was just bizarre. He was really into anime, techno music, computers, and hitting on any girl possible. He asked me on a date, and I said yes. I really need to learn how to say "no", obviously. It was a double date, which made it better... but my goodness, it didn't help much. We did some random stuff and then went to his apartment to play games. He turned on his techno music (some of which was not very appropriate), and after a few songs he got up and started dancing, if that jumping and twitching and flapping can be called "dancing". At one point, he was doing his "flapping" thing over ME, and I had this awful image in my head of my grandparent's rooster doin' his thang on a hen. I left very soon after, feeling thankful that I had to drive there because he didn't have a car.

Exibit C: He was (and still is...) in my ward. I am very outgoing, so I said he and introduced myself. We talked a few times... nothing too significant though. Than he somehow got my number, and I still do not know how. It isn't on my facebook and I can't think of who he would have asked since I don't hand out my number to a whole lot of people. Once he got my number, he really didn't stop texting me. I'd get texts any time, day and night. He'd flirt, try to get me to go on a date with him, all that jazz. I would either tell him no, reply with short 1-5 word texts, or ignore him altogether. Then it stopped for a few days.... and then he texted me asking me advice about a girl he likes from our ward. I kid you not, this was just days after he was hard core flirting with me. He apparently met her the day he stopped texting me, and already has his eternities mapped out with her by his side... haha. :) I think the weridest and most annoying thing about him is that he RARELY talked to me face to face. He basically only talked to me through text or facebook. Even (and especially) when we were in the same room. Lame.

What are some strange characters you've attracted? Now that I've told some of my stories I want to hear yours. :)

♥-Kaylee

Obviously, this whim of a blog hasn't "stuck" for us, or for like 90% of our readers. I'm sure there are several factors in this, but I won't go into that.

What I wanted to say was that although I am all about people being able to share their thoughts and opinions, some of you have gone over the top. Honestly, if you hate us and think we are stupid, immature, yadda yadda yadda... then let me offer this simple solution. DON'T READ IT. Rather than leave hate comments with less than admirable language, just don't ever click on this blog again. Not that there will be many, if any, posts after this one, since this blog is very low on our list of priorities.

Thanks a bunch!

♥-Kaylee (and all the other girls too)

"Hot" vs. "Beautiful"

I have a huge pet peeve about being called "hot". It is definitely among the top 10 things that turn me off. The only guys who have called me hot have been dirty, nasty slimeballs that just have one thing on their mind. The only person who will ever be allowed to call me that will be my husband... haha. :)

I hate how I feel when someone describes me as "hot". I don't want to be thought of as a hottie. I want to be thought of as beautiful, and I know I'm not alone in this. I have only met a very few girls who prefer being called hot to being called beautiful, and the lifestyles they live are definitely questionable.

The purpose of this post is to hear all of your opinions on this subject. Am I just being a prude? Or do you agree?

Which do you prefer... hot or beautiful?

♥-Kaylee

First of all...

...I'm so sorry it has been so long since anyone posted on here! School is kicking everyone's butts around here and essay and studying is a bigger priority than this blog. :)

So let me just jump right in and update you all on this situation with Jeremy that I talked about in the last post I wrote. I made up my mind to just crush him the next opportunity I had. that's the good news. I know most of the people who commented (and thanks for your input!) said that is what I should do, and I know you're right. The problem is, I haven't had an opportunity. The reason why I haven't already crushed him is because he fluctuates between flirting and ignoring. He'll be all nasty and then he won't talk to me for a month or so, which gives me enough time to feel confident that he is finally backing off before he strikes again. this time, however, I am not going to let myself feel comfortable with the idea that he took all the hints I've given him that I'm not attracted at all, and I'll be ready if/when he tries something smooth again. If only he were perceptive enough to just leave me alone, as well as all the other girls he toys around with. Ugh...

There is a formal coming up before too long that I am nervous about. It's girl's choice, and I honestly don't know who I am going to ask. I may just end up not going, even though I am helping out with decorating and food. It is so frustrating to not know of a single person who I would like to spend a few hours with that doesn't already have a girlfried or a fiancee. Maybe I'm being really picky, but I don't want to settle for less. Maybe I'm just taking things too seriously though. :)

Thoughts? I love comments! And thanks to everyone who has left one!

-Kaylee

Saying NO.

Last night I went to a BBQ with a bunch of friends. You know, just to enjoy some free food (yes!) and have a little fun after a long day. I had a friend call me right as we all got there about something she needed help with though, so I chatted with her right outside the door before heading in. I saw this guy come walking up to the door who I have known for a while. Although I use the word "known" pretty loosely. This guy, Jeremy, is one of those guys who is just awkward to be around. And because I felt bad about that, I tried to befriend him and include him so that he wouldn't feel like a loner. In high school, I was "that girl" who just didn't have a whole lot of friends, so I've always tried to be inclusive. The people who included me when I was in that same situation really changed my life, and I want to pass that on. This time, I guess it kind of backfired. Apparently there is such a thing as being "too nice". :) Jeremy got the wrong idea and thought that I was trying to let him know that I was interested in him. He began to try to touch me whenever he got the chance. It wasn't inappropriate at first, just a side-hug or something like that. Then it was patting me on the head (What am I, a cat? Rawr!), rubbing my shoulders if I were sitting down, etc. I'd always move away and shake my head "no" or just try to let him know I really didn't want him doing that. But he had a real problem with taking the hint.

A couple of weeks ago, however, I thought I might have gotten the point across. He called me "hot" which is something I really dislike. But that is a topic for another day. :) So I told him that I really don't like being called that, how I don't consider that a compliment, that I didn't want him to call me that, etc. Basically telling him that I'm not interested. And ever since then he left me alone. I thought my problems with him were all solved. But after tonight I guess I was wrong.

Back to my story... I was just outside talking on the phone when he walked up. I made eye contact and kind of smiled, just to acknowledge him, and then turned slightly away and went on talking to my friend. Instead of just walking on towards the home where the BBQ was, like I thought he would, he came over to give me a big hug. Like... a BIG hug. Both arms wrapped tightly around me like a boa constrictor. And he wouldn't let go! I struggled to get out of his grip, but he just laughed and held me tighter. I had to use both hands to physically push him off of me. Not just a little nudge, but a full on shove. I said "no" to him very firmly, and was about to say a whole lot more, but he walked away before I could say anything else. Then while we were passing each other he put his hand on my back and rubbed it in a very uncomforable way... like with the tips of his fingers prodding my spine. Ugh, this sounds even worse in writing... So I once again said, "NO". But I don't think he got the idea.

I think that the only way I will be able to really get rid of him is to just spell it out. "Jeremy, you creepy little...!!!" Haha just kidding... maybe something a little nicer. But is being nice what got me into this in the first place?

I am probably going to see him again tonight. And I am hoping to be able to clear it up when and if I do, so do any of you have any suggestions for what to say and how to say it? I want to get rid of this guy... but I would really rather not crush him. But is that something I can't avoid anymore?

My goodness, was life a lot easier when we all had "cooties".

♥-Kaylee

Okay. First of all, I second what Kaylee said. She is pretty much AMAZING, love you girl!

Second, let me kind of introduce myself. I am Brittany... and I'm actually the only one of these girls who is (kind of) in a relationship-ish. (Not that I am like all proud of that or whatever... haha) If you are a girl, that will TOTALLY make sense. For the guys, let me explain.

So I am a dental hygenist. I graduated from UVU this spring... yay me! And a few months ago, this guy (Andrew) came in needing a checkup done of whatever. We got to chatting, and it turns out he was working on his mission papers. I was a tad bit disappointed... thought he was a little older than almost 19. But hey, age is just a number, right? And speaking of numbers... he asked for mine, so I gave it to him, duh.

So he called me... and we met up at the Creamery the next week. And we just hit it off right away... we hung out a lot, went on several dates, got to the holding hands/I love you stage, but no kisses... some promise he made to wait until engagement.

THEN... he left on a mission to Wisconsin. Before we even had time for a real good DTR or anything. But Elder McCain and I still write basically every week. But even though we kinda flirt(ish) sometimes, we aren't technically a couple... so yeah. It is complicated. But I totally do NOT feel single, at all. But I guess I am still "dating" and "single", although I care about him a lot.

What do you all think though, is it weird for a 23 y/o to date a 19 y/o? Too much of an age gap? and when he gets back I will be 25.... yikes. In Mormon culture I would be in the advanced stages of "Old Maid-ism" hahaha jk. ;)

Thoughts?

Hola!

So I (Kaylee) get to have the first shot at this thing apparently... I'm so excited for this whole blog thing, but I honestly don't know where to start when it comes to what I wish the guys knew or would do or the things that really turn me off. I guess I'll start with the one thing that I (and really, most LDS girls) look for in a guy. And that is a testimony.

Yeah, yeah... it sounds corny to a lot of people. And I probably look like a little Molly Mormon right now. But you know what? I am okay with that because I'd much rather be known as a goody two-shoes than a skanky twit.

Let me explain why a testimony is so important to me and the majority of the female LDS population in general. When a guy has a really strong testimony, as in he really believes in the things we are taught AND applies them to his daily life, everything he does is affected by that. What he says, how he dresses, the interests and pursuits and desires he has. Especially as relates to women.

I am well aware that men tend to be pretty physical and visual. And I really don't consider that to be a bad thing, as long as it is controlled and/or appropriate. But the determining factor (in most cases) seems to be whether the guy has a strong testimony or not. I have known and dated quite a few guys. More than I like to admit, honestly. And the guys that did not have a real interest in the church or in gaining/maintaining a testimony were the ones that treated me the worst.

One of them, named Jared, was especially bad. Sure he was an RM, sure he went to church and did his home teaching every month and was working on his food storage and that that jazz... but his heart wasn't into it. He was a charmer, very charismatic, but he didn't see me as much more than a girl with a nice body. I play on my college's volleyball team so I'm in pretty good shape.

On the other hand, another guy I dated named Bryan was completely opposite. We rarely even kissed or anything. We would go over to each others apartments and just talk. We would talk for hours and hours about everything under the sun. We'd discuss our hopes and dreams, worries and stresses, school and work, etc. We'd talk about the gospel and the scriptures, and that was always the best. He was squeaky clean, but not boring at all. He knew how to have fun, but he also know that the only real "fun" would be things that would keep him close to the Lord. We only broke up because he moved to the East Coast for college, and it was right for me to keep my scholarship to BYU and stay here in Provo. We are still good friends though, we just didn't want to do the whole long distance ordeal. Who knows, maybe he'll come back to Provo and things will work out?

But I'm rambling now... haha. So yep, that is part of the reason why a testimony is so important to me, although there are a lot more things I could (and in the future I probably will) say about this subject. Stay tuned... I'm sure my girls have a lot of things to say, and I'm excited to hear their opinions too!

♥-Kaylee

Welcome!! :)

This is Brittany, Kaylee, Andrea, and Jaclyn! We are 4 single Mormon girls who decided to create this blog to let the men out there know what the girls REALLY think of them, what we like/dislike, what we're looking for, and what makes us want to run away screaming. We hope you enjoy reading this, and that you'll appreciate the honesty. Because let's face it... we are what we are and we aren't going to change that, so just love us like we are and we'll love you too!

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